Saturday, March 29, 2008

The Home Life

"The home-life should also be made bright and full of sunshine. The courtesty of the true home is not stiff and formal but sincere, simple and natural. Children need an atmosphere of gladness. Law should not make its restraints hang like chains upon them. Sternness and coldness should have no place in home-life of in family government. No child can ever grow up into its richest and best development in a home which is gloomy and unhappy. No more do plants need sunshine and air than children need joy and gladness. Unhappiness stunts them, so that their sweetest graces never come out."

----JR Miller

This was just posted on a blog that I read, but I thought I'd put it here since it's from a book that I am currently reading called Homemaking.
What I find interesting about a quote like this, is that one reading it who does not have children and has not spent a lot of time around young children might come to the conclusion that spanking and discipline is what the author is speaking against. But just the opposite is true. The homes where selfishness is allowed to fester, where brattiness is not promptly dealt with, where children are allowed to complain and whine and defy their parents, those are the unhappy and gloomy homes. The well-ordered home where defiance is not tolerated but promptly dealt with and forgiven, is the home with sweetness, joy and gladness. A swift spanking accompanied by love and tenderness and godly instruction is a minor interuption to an overall peaceful environment. A homelife of constant strife can be more painful to a child than many spankings.

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