Friday, November 30, 2007
Although I am aware that the Internet can be used as an endless opportunity for sin, I am so thankful for some uses of it. Often in the evenings when I am too tired to do anything else, I will check up on my favorite blogs. One, called Large Family Mothering, is the writings of a home school mother of 14. I don’t know about you, but I personally don’t know any mothers with 14 children. I hardly know any that have as many as I have. But what is so wonderful about these blogs, is that I am constantly encouraged and mentored by these moms I don’t even know. Even if I did personally know a mom like that, how often would she have the opportunity to tell me why she does what she does and how worth it it is? But online, I get to read about what her life is really like and how she really feels about her family. It is clear to all who read her posts that she is truly blessed and happy.
Here, I got to read an article about a couple in their late 50’s who has 20 adopted children. They started by going to Russia to get a few children and just kept going back. To hear about families like that just puts everything in life in perspective. You see people living out a life that really isn’t about them. The article tells us that this couple has spent several hundred thousand dollars in adoption fees. The Mom says: "You could buy a yacht, or you could save some children's lives and build a family." I like how she put that.
There are some things that you need to hear over and over. The worthiness of giving your life to be a wife and a mother is one of those things. So I encourage you women, if you have some extra time on your hands, go to some sights and find out what makes these women tick. I promise you, you will be astonished and amazed. You will be astonished when you learn that they delight in waking up with: “18 feet wiggled together under a huge comforter on our bedroom floor.” Or that these women are so happy that they actually feel guilt and are sorry for those who are trapped by the world’s small-family thinking:
“I know that I am thought to be "retarded" in the eyes of the world, what with all of these children all about me. But I feel actually guilty at times because I feel so blessed and have so much fun here on earth. You could actually call me happy--imagine that!” (Read post Here)
I just can’t resist another quote:
“I guess some would say we have too many children. This must mean that we have too many beds, too many shoes, too much noise, too many trials and needs and interruptions.
But what they really need to know is that we have more than enough. More than enough love, more than enough hugs, more than enough concern, more than enough smiles, more than enough laughter, more than enough shoulders to cry on, and more than enough of God's provision, and care and wisdom, even in the smallest details of our lives.”
(From "Too Many Children?")
The point of these blogs is never to point fingers at small families who get their organs tied after two kids and say “you’re bad” and try to make feel guilty if they don’t have a lot of kids. The point instead is entirely the opposite because it is entirely positive. The point is that it simply shows something beautiful and positive. It puts flesh and bones on the verse: “Children are a gift from the Lord.” So that it is no longer something we “take on faith,” with a raise of the eyebrows and a “whatever that means” dismissal. Instead, these women show their love for their homes, their husbands and their children in such a way that you can’t help but wanting what they have. I think that many women who have decided to never have children because they want a career instead and read these sights, would come away feeling that they are jipping themselves. It's not the: "if I become a Christian God's going to make me be a missionary in the jungle" mentality. Ho, humm, I have to have all these children or I'll be disobeying God. Absolutely not. Instead it is an act of catching the vision. Look at how wonderful this is.
Women have to be taught to “be busy at home, to love their husbands and their children.” Because the scripture commands that it be taught, we know that it does not come naturally. I am thankful for the many women who, although they are already extremely busy home schooling their 14 or so children, take time to share with the world what makes them tick and why they do what they do.
Here are a few posts to get you started:
Reclaiming the Lost Vision of Motherhood
The Wonder of Babies
A Vision of Glory and Splendor
The Duggers Website (Family of 19)
(Actually, post by Leslie)