Thursday, December 07, 2006

Beautiful Older Women – An age old solution for the old age problem

How can a woman keep herself attractive even into old age? Leslie and I discussed this one night and I think we came up with a good solution; an age old solution.

When many young women hear that men are attracted to women visually, an insipid fear creeps into their minds about whether or not they will be able to remain attractive to their husbands as they grow older. Much of this fear is exasperated by the fact that men have this propensity to leave their wives for younger more attractive women.

Leaving off the question for now of a man’s responsibility to his wife and children, I want to give a few practical things younger woman can do to overcome the 2nd Law of Thermodynamics (i.e. the curse).

First, while your natural beauty may have caught your husband’s eye to begin with, you must realize that this will not always be possible. Your body will succumb to nature and you will become less physically attractive the older you get. In fact, it is often the case that the harder a woman tries to fight this curse of nature, the more she will appear to be the cursed by nature.

If you accept this fact from the beginning, it will free you to begin looking beyond the surface of your body for an answer to this problem. It is one of the scary ironies of nature that those who linger too long battling the body find that it is too late to engage in the battle within.

Then you need to begin developing a quiet and beautiful spirit. As Peter wrote:
3 Do not let your adorning be external—the braiding of hair, the wearing of gold, or the putting on of clothing— 4 but let your adorning be the hidden person of the heart with the imperishable beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit, which in God's sight is very precious. 5 For this is how the holy women who hoped in God used to adorn themselves, by submitting to their husbands, 6 as Sarah obeyed Abraham, calling him lord. And you are her children, if you do good and do not fear anything that is frightening.
The basic idea is that as your body begins wearing out, your spirit will be coming to life. In this way you will be endearing yourself to your husband far beyond the bonds of the eye.

More later.

1 comment:

Matt said...

Chris,

I think there's another aspect of this issue in what our culture has done to men--convincing him that a woman must sustain (or obtain in the first place for that matter) a false standard conveyed by models and movie stars. Worse yet is the statement so many Christian men are making by giving in to the temptation of pornography.

I realized several years ago that pornography is not only damaging to men in that it is sin that hides God's face from us, it is even more so in making us believe a lie--that our wives should look that way too and fulfill our every sexual whim and fantasy.

I agree with your points and think you're right that women really need to seek what it means to be a "virtuous woman". But furthermore, we men really need to hold each other accountable and remind one another that we are to love our wives as Christ loved the Church--and not for only as long as we find them physically beautiful.

I know you're not in any way suggesting that. I just wanted to make this point as I believe it contributes to freeing our wives from the bondage of trying to maintain the false standard that our flesh naturally desires.